MacKenzie's Mental Health Journey
Editor's note: Thank you MacKenzie for sharing your self-reflective journey of self-acceptance and self-care.
Hi! I have always wanted to do something like this but I never really knew what I would say. I guess I'll start off by briefly introducing myself.
My name is Mackenzie. I am a 21-year-old student in the Nursing program at the University of Calgary. I was born in Fort McMurray, six minutes after my twin sister. I don't eat meat, and I love every gender. If somebody asked me to list some of the things I love, I would say baths, dogs, coffee, wine, and reading. Aside from all of these things (and more!) that make me the person that I am, I also struggle with mental illness.
I have always been the type of person who concedes. I once told someone that I would rather "lose the fight and not the person." I would repeat this like a mantra and cling to it as a reason not to leave abusive situations. For me, it was worse to "give up" and not try than to protect myself and leave. I always apologized for things that were not my fault. To this day, I continue to apologize for them.
I garnered the reputation of being a pushover, and this allowed people to take advantage of me, especially since I always saw their great qualities. I thought this was my strength (in some twisted way, maybe it is): the ability to feel so fiercely and love so fully that it shattered me. When medical professionals speculated that a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder might be appropriate (among diagnoses of anxiety, depression, ADHD, an eating disorder, and a history of self-harm), it felt so right. However, it also tore me apart.
In hindsight, it makes perfect sense. My intense fear of abandonment enveloped me to the point where I apologized, whether or not I should have. I forgot about myself and what I needed in order to please other people. It's hard having this as a part of me. I've invalidated and suppressed my own feelings to accommodate others for so long. It's almost as if I don't know who I am without that.
So what is the moral of the story? This is me at this point. I am learning to be gentle with myself. As well, I am learning not to be sorry about being a person who exists for themselves.
Why is it important for you to share your story and experiences with mental health and illness?
I think there is braveness and courage in being radically vulnerable. In sharing my own story and vulnerability, I hope it gives people who may not have said anything before, the chance to speak out. There is strength in a community; given the knowledge that one isn't alone makes it much easier to find the help one needs.
Calgary, AB, CA
More about MacKenzie:
I am in my 4th year of nursing, intending to focus on mental health. In my free time, I enjoys taking baths, reading books, cross-stitching and embroidery, and recently took upon learning yoga as a means of physical activity. My dog, Pancake is my pride and joy!
I am passionate about mental health, and aim to reduce stigma by showing the “real” unedited side of it. I make sense of my life experiences by photo-journaling my journey on my personal Instagram. The following is a photo from a stay I recently had at Rockyview for preventative measures. I really love it because it's a hospital room, which for-the-most part is super boring, but the curtains were rainbow and made me feel so lucky and hopeful!
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